Three Month Update – Caregiver

I moved mom into an elderly retirement community with nursing care about three months ago.  It was the best decision I have ever made for myself, and for her.  She was probably calling me 30-40 times per week, now she is averaging 2-3. She has gone from being clinical for three months, to now stay … Continue reading Three Month Update – Caregiver

Guardianship – what is it?

A guardianship is a legal action that is filed in the probate court.  The issue for the court to decide is whether or not the person in question, the proposed ward, is in need of a guardian, and, if so, who should serve as the legal guardian? While these actions are common in cases of … Continue reading Guardianship – what is it?

How to deal with liars

We all deal with them.  Folks who have zero compunction about lying.  And, if you confront them about it, guess what?  They'll lie more, blame you, or further complicate the matter.  So what do you do? Document the file.  And this can be done in a variety of ways.  For lawyers, we document the file … Continue reading How to deal with liars

What makes a Power of Attorney “durable”?

Fair question.  The answer, very logical.  A "durable" power of attorney must be printed on 40lb bond paper.   No, that's not what makes it durable, I swear, this stuff is funny - to someone (okay, maybe just me). A Power of Attorney document is based entirely in agency law.  Rule One of agency law - … Continue reading What makes a Power of Attorney “durable”?

The Gap After Clinical Care

The 1950's and 1960's saw the de-institutionalization of patients suffering from mental illness.  Why is that?  Well two things: 1) Due to the lack of institutional oversight, the institutions themselves were wrought with problems and cases of patients being abused; and 2) the Civil Rights Movement.  A person diagnosed with a mental illness hasn't committed … Continue reading The Gap After Clinical Care

Knowing when to stop the dialogue.

Whether it is at home, in litigation, or in a negotiation, there are moments in life where continuing to communicate will push you further from your goal. Knowing when to stop the communication requires some intuition and experience.  A feel for whether you can convince the other side to "see the light."  No matter how … Continue reading Knowing when to stop the dialogue.

Finally had the conversation – you aren’t going home.

I finally had the conversation with my mom that I had been fearing.  Mom had been clinical from October until December - literally three months in a row.  She'd have a month long hospitalization, then she'd be discharged.  Within a week, she'd be pink slipped again.  I just kind of kept my hands off the … Continue reading Finally had the conversation – you aren’t going home.

Make your life easier – hacks for being a caregiver

Here are a few things that have made my life easier as a caregiver: Code locks on family member's home - I hate when I've needed to get into mom's house, but can't because I left her keys at home.  A code lock has vastly improved my life in that I don't have to go … Continue reading Make your life easier – hacks for being a caregiver

You Ain’t Atlas – Caregiver

Being a Caregiver to a Family Member with Clinical Mental Illness I don't know if it was because it was my mom, or if it was my Super Man complex (not actually a thing) coming into play, but when I got the call mom was in the Emergency Department, I immediately went into fix-it mode.  … Continue reading You Ain’t Atlas – Caregiver

My Baptism – Caregiver Journey

A brief anecdote of how my journey as a caregiver to a family member with mental illness began It was the summer after my sophomore year of college when I found out my mother had a clinical mental illness.  I was sound asleep when the phone rang. "Is this Chris Murphy?" asked an unfamiliar voice. … Continue reading My Baptism – Caregiver Journey